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You can look good when you are over 50!

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When I grew up I kept hearing ‘You will gain weight in your 40th and 50th. It’s just what happens. There is no way around it. You just live with it. I heard it from my mom and my aunts and my grandma. They all had been slim in their 20th and 30th but now in their 40’s and 50’s they had gained 20 – 40 pounds they didn’t need or want. My sister just recently visited. Same as me, she is in her 50th and she told me that she gained about 15 pounds a couple of years ago without changing anything in her daily routine. She is active all day running her coffee shop; she eats healthy and she still gained the 15 pounds and 3 dress sizes. She said ‘I can’t do anything about it. It’s just how it is.’

When I got into my 40th I was curious…would I get the pounds? From my teens on my weight always ranged between 136 and 150 pounds. I am 5.7’ and 136 pounds feels really good. You might think 150 isn’t really overweight but for me it feels that way. It means I am round around my hips and belly and I can’t wear the clothing I really like. When I look at myself in the mirror I see a wobbly layer covering up who I really am and it just feels wrong to be hiding. When I weigh 150 pounds I am also 1 or 2 dresses sizes bigger. And then last but not least…if I made it from 136 to 150 pounds, I could easily make it from 150 to 170 and so on. It is really alarming.

This is where I am different from my sister and my aunts. My sister told me that ‘without changing’ she had gained the pounds and my aunts hadn’t changed anything either when they had gained their weight. They just kept living the same way they had lived before. I am different in the way that when I am at 150 pounds I am about ready to change anything really quickly to get to my lower weight again. And the one thing that my sister and my aunts didn’t want to do – change – is what is doing the trick for me each time. And each time it’s a different change that helps me get to my weight.

In my 30th I lost weight by starting to eat 5 – 7 times a day and smaller portions. But even with eating smaller portions more often a day I gained weight again in my 40th. So I bought a horse and up’d exercising to 5 times a week. At 49 I gained weight again even with eating smaller portions and riding 5 times a week so I started to working out with Ilana (check her out at Enerjoy Fitness in Scottsdale – she is the best). I added 2 – 3 workouts a week and started writing a food diary which Ilana reviewed every week. My weight dropped from 150 to 142 pounds but I was stuck there and couldn’t get to the 136 pounds I really wanted. So I did a juice and protein shake diet with multiple hydrotherapy sessions. My colon felt cleaner than ever and I got to 136 pounds. Being so clean helped me stay under 140 pounds for over a year. But then I gained weight again and got close to 150 pounds once again. So Ilana put me on a strict 1600 calorie a day food regimen and later Ilana introduced me to Isagenix which helps me stay at a great weight – not where I want to be but great.

All this said, it’s not just one change, it’s many changes that I have made and all the changes that worked for me I kept on doing. I never went back on them. I am expecting to have to do many more changes and I am so glad I have people like Ilana who help me. I also have to thank Bernadeane and Jim Strole again since they both inspire me to constantly change and live better. Change for the better is great and it is so overlooked in our society. Staying the same is so much more common but no-one wins anything with it. We don’t progress in our body and feeling good is so wonderful. It can never be valued enough.

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I found a short-cut…

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Since I can think I have had a very tight lower back. My lower back wouldn’t necessarily hurt but I was limited in my range of motion. E.g. running was so uncomfortable that I simply cut it out of the list of things I would do. Or standing in line would hurt if it was longer than 2 minutes. It wasn’t such a big problem, since I could deal with it by simply moving around while waiting. Or sitting was uncomfortable but I looked for chairs that supported me well and I was able to cope. All of this didn’t worry me too much, since I thought it’s normal to be uncomfortable in that way and I thought most people who are not yogi’s have some discomforts every day anyways. Sometimes I would get real back pain and when this would happen I would start doing stretching exercises and go see a chiropractor and I would be fine again.

This was until last year. Last year I was doing stretching exercises every day, I was seeing a chiropractor consistently, I received massages every other week and despite all of this I started to have really bad back pain. And the back pain got worse with everything I did to get rid of it. My stretching, my adjustments from my chiropractor and the massages I got all of it made it worse and not better. I finally got through the worst of it by taking Advil and getting acupuncture. But the truth is, I never really got all the way well. I always had a little bit of pain. Sometimes it felt like it was gone but then I did a wrong move and it was back again. I was really frustrated.

About 6 weeks ago I started going to a new chiropractor. My horse had started getting adjustments from Doctor Stires and he really saw improvements. Since Doctor Stires also treated people I thought I give’ll him a try as well. What could I loose. What he suggested was decompression therapy. Decompression therapy seemed to make sense so I agreed and we started the treatment plan. After 3 weeks with 3 times a week of decompression  and adjustments he sent me home with my decompression machine and instructions to continue a big piece of the treatment plan on my own.

My new routine is very time consuming: 3 days a week I do the decompression and 3 days a week I do exercises that stretch and build muscles. The entire program takes 35 – 45 minutes a day pretty much every day of the week. That’s a lot of time to fit into my busy schedule. I thought my new chiropractor obviously hadn’t heard about the ‘shortcut’ or ‘get to your goal faster’ approach which all of us so desperately look for.

But to tell  the truth… the 35 – 45 minute routine I now have to add to my daily activities is the short-cut. I am really starting to feel a difference in my lower back. I started running a little in the morning and guess what, I get out of breath but I do not hurt – and I am only starting…

So what is a 35 – 45 minutes routine for a couple of months compared to 45 years of discomfort? It’s very little effort and a real short-cut.

Lots of people look for short-cuts at the wrong place. The real short-cut is what delivers the results. How much will my life improve every single day, 24 hours a day, for an unlimited number of more years to come with only a 35 – 45 minute investment a day right now?  I am so happy I got something that helps me and doing what it takes for it is so much fun and so worth it. It’s the real short-cut.

I love building my body, it builds my spirit and soul and wellbeing. It makes me a better person. It makes me greater for myself and others.

Where others build a career and a legacy, I build my body and I am so happy to be so successful at it and that I found people to help me with it. I have a lot to show for. It’s mostly my wellbeing and me feeling so good. What a wonderful life to live. I am so thankful to Bernie and Jim who are the most radical inspiration for me to do so. It’s essential for me to have Bernie and Jim and so many others in my life who show me a life that is so well worth living, a life that sees no end.

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I have no problems…

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I am sitting in my beautiful home and am thinking about all the amazing people I have in my life. Jim and Ilana were over for dinner Saturday night and we talked a lot about how well we are doing. How deeply we appreciate each other. What great vacations we have planned, what great foods we eat, how we have a future for us with more money, more wellbeing, how much we are touched by all the amazing people who feel us so deeply and are building this unlimited life with us.

About a week ago, I heard someone call Jim Strole the most positive person in the world. When I had him over for dinner that evening I could feel Jim’s positivity impact me.

The reason why I have no problems is because I have so many positive people around me. People like Jim Strole. 

But what is positive?

Positive is not that we have nothing bad happen to us, real positivity is how we deal with the good and bad things that happen in our lives. Real positivity is when we use everything we experience to make us stronger. Real positivity is when we really enjoy the good things in our lives and know that they happen to us because it’s who we are and that they are not coincidental. Real positivity is when we have something bad happen (like someone close to us dies, or we loose money, or we get robbed, etc.) and we know we can handle it. Real positivity is when these bad things don’t make us feel like we are bad people.

Bernie and Jim always say that it’s not personal when people treat us poorly. In the past I understood what they were saying but I still felt miserable and kind of responsible for it when something bad happened to me. But the truth is that it’s not personal when someone runs all over me or manipulates me or robs me. It’s not personal at all! The people who treat me poorly are usually very negative people and they act it out with anyone they meet. I just happened to be one of them. In the end it has nothing to do with me and it for sure doesn’t make me a bad person.

There is one lesson I have to learn from these bad situations though! This lesson is that I have to learn how to stay away from bad people. I also have to learn how to get away from them quickly if they do happen to get in my way.

I have no problems, because I have people in my life that are honest and want the best for me in every way. They don’t just wish the best for me but also go out of their way to make it happen every day.

Even though my work comes with a lot of different people from all walks of life and with all kinds of agenda’s, I am getting better to go with the strengths of each person and to stay out of the way of trouble. I feel the better I am getting at staying out of the way of trouble and the better I am doing at taking in all the great things that happen every day, the happier I am.

I simply have no problem. It’s hard to grasp because it means that there is nothing left to fix. I have a lot of time on my hands, now that I no longer worry so much and there is nothing left to fix. Time I can use to do things I really like doing. Things like writing this blog or getting closer to the many people I truly love and care about.

 

The best super attitude on the planet

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A little over a week ago Matt Monarch launched the best superfood on the planet. He said that a little bit of it is so potent that it has the power to cure cancer, arthritis, HIV and protect from Alzheimer Disease. He called it the best superfood ever where nothing like it had ever been seen on the planet. And there were so many clinical studies proofing it that of course I ordered this superfood and can’t wait for it to arrive. Who doesn’t want to try the best superfood ever 🙂

But what’s the best superfood when you have a shitty attitude? It’s been known for a long time that what you think impacts your wellbeing and health. And there is something impacting our health even more than our negative thoughts, it’s all the destructive things we do to ourselves every day.

You are destructive to yourself if you feel you have no future because you are boxed in; or if you don’t allow yourself to feel all of your emotions because they are too scary; or if you push back people who are good to you but choose to hang out with abusive people; or if you see everything and everyone against you all the time; or if you only trust your dog and cat but can’t trust people; or if you feel guilty about having too much fun; or if you think you don’t deserve the best for yourself; or if you are modest and put yourself in second place behind others all the time; or if you can’t accept compliments; or if you feel you have to be loyal to people who treat you poorly because you once made a promise to do so; or if you feel you can’t speak up for yourself or others when you see something around you that’s not right; or if you want to look like a movie star more than wanting to look like yourself; or if you love cereal for breakfast but eat eggs because it’s what your family likes; of if you want to earn millions and you think you will never be good enough to earn them; or if you want to be treated well by your intimate partner but settle for just anyone because you don’t want to be lonely; or if you feel incomplete because you don’t have a boy friend, girl friend, husband or wife; or if you feel depressed when you get what you want because you think it won’t last; or if you can’t laugh out loud because you are too concerned about disturbing others; or if fun is just not part of your day; or if you feel sad or a so called ‘negative’ emotion and you feel wrong for doing it. 

And there is so much more… All these small actions we do every day consciously or unconsciously are self destructive and will cause the very thing we want to heal with the superfood. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against superfoods I love them. But I also know that I will only feel really great, if I stop everything I do that is destructive to my person.

And I haven’t even mentioned the most destructive thing ever. And most people do it. And it’s far more destructive than all the attitudes and actions I mentioned above. And even though there are a lot of white papers and novels and blogs about things we do that are destructive to ourselves and how to stop them, there is not much written about the most destructive thing ever. People do everything they have in their power to avoid feeling the destruction, yet it is so obviously unhealthy. You don’t have to be a doctor or scientist to see it.

So what is it? The most destructive attitude and action ever is that people feel they have to die. No matter how healthy, how much money, how many superfoods, how many spa treatments, how many rich and great relationships, very few have ever questioned the most destructive thought and feeling there is. Which is the thought and feeling that humans have to die.

Think about it… you focus on an area in your body that is not doing well and you visualize it being well. I’ve done it many, many times and it always works. You can get rid of a head-ache in no time with a visualization exercise. It works like a charm. Now think about what you do to your cells if you always give them the message that they have to die some day and that they won’t be able to duplicate and renew any longer. And if you don’t say it out loud, be sure that you are telling it to your cells unconsciously all the time. Don’t fool yourself it’s the most unhealthy attitude there is. It can only be broken by making a conscious decision to not die, to feel physically better all the time and to see no end to the cells.

The afterlife is the most promoted thing by pretty much every religion on this planet, but I think it’s time that we promote the life right here on this planet! It’s the biggest high you’ve ever experienced. Once you start doing it, you will feel the energy boost it give you. You will see it makes you feel phenomenal. It also makes it easy to change the seemingly unending list of destructive things we can do to ourselves. The benefits are huge, start today with your new journey that sees no end for yourself! 

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Life can be painful so why would I want it unlimited?

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Yesterday, I went to a talk with Matt Monarch. Matt is the owner of the biggest raw food online store in the world. He has been eating totally raw for many years, yet what he was promoting yesterday was not eating totally raw but eating in a way that brings you ultimate health. I like ultimate health, I like a future with no pharmaceutical drugs. I like a future without Alzheimer disease. I like a future without heart disease. I like future without arthritis. I like a future without overweight. I like a future without scoliosis. I like a future that sees no death. I like a future of unending complete wellbeing. Wellbeing far beyond the health we know right now. I feel it is possible to feel actually better and better physically and experience a wellbeing better than anyone ever has. I feel this is my future and I am already living it. I liked Matt’s talk because he is a genius in researching products that make you feel really really good. So I enjoyed his talk and once again walked away with a handful of new products that I can’t wait to try.

Even though I liked Matt’s talk about foods, I liked the last part of his talk even better. It wasn’t about food. It was about spirituality. I  often don’t like it much when people talk about spirituality because they tend to use it as their way to not feel their bodies. To get away from their physicality. To deny it. I don’t like denying my body or other people’s bodies because it is the most destructive thing there is. People do it a lot in may different ways and one of these ways is spirituality and I hate it. Yes, we feel pain and sometimes it might feel that the longer we live the more pain we feel. And yes, we feel very uncomfortable sometimes and yes, this discomfort in our bodies. We feel it in our hearts, veins, muscles, emotions, nervous systems. And yes, it seems like the easiest way out to get as far away from it as possible. But where most people want to get away from the pain in their bodies as quickly as they can, I actually like it. I like it because having pain allows me to see areas that need attention and change and I love that I get loud signals for it.

Back to Matt’s talk…I only stayed for the first part of Matt’s talk about spirituality and I actually liked it. It was totally different from what I had expected. It was actually about the body and not about how to avoid it. What he said was simple. It is about focus. If you feel discomfort in your body or if you have a disease, stare it down. Go to bed early, feel the area in your body where you feel discomfort and stare it down.

Otto asked me at home, so how does this work? I usually have a hard time staring down anything or anyone but there are things that deserve to be stared down – like people who are intimidators. People who are disrespectful and walk all over me deserve to be stared down. People who cheat on me or are dishonest deserve to be stared down. And the same way these people deserve to be stared down, the symptoms in my body that are caused by the emotional stress from being treated poorly deserve to be stared down.

I loved this piece of Matt’s talk and I am enthusiastically going to become an expert in staring down bad things. I love having no end and my future just became better. I know I will always meet people like Matt who make it better. Thanks Matt!

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My dog Kandy is having a crisis

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My dog Kandy is laying next to us with her head under the bed. My other dog Gipsy – who we just got from a rescue – is dropping a ball in front of Kandy over and over again teasing her to play but Kandy keeps ignoring Gipsy. Kandy has a lot of energy and loves to play. It can never be too much activity for her. At least this is what Kandy used to be. Now we got Gipsy and Gipsy has actually time to give Kandy just that lots of attention and playtime but Kandy shows Gipsy the cold shoulder.

Otto and I could never play much with Kandy. For the most part of our days we sit in front of our computers or talk on the phone working. We take a couple of minutes here and there to walk or play with Kandy but overall we are really boring as it pertains to Kandy’s needs. Gipsy on the other hand has lots of time and lots of energy to play with Kandy. But now Kandy is showing a completely new side, the side of a grumpy old dog who just doesn’t want to talk to the stupid little kid who dares to interrupt the so well known family life. 

Aren’t we sometimes like that? Aren’t we sometimes bored with our life and wish something new and exciting would happen and when it actually happens we turn our back to it? Because it messes up the well known family life? But mostly it just messes up the boring life we had and for some reason now we don’t like it. It’s pathetic.

I want my boring life messed up with something new and better all the time. I love the new. I want lots of more physically immortal people in my life who don’t just want to rely on family for the real big things in their life but want to rely on me too. I am looking for these people who want to rely on me because I see them unlimited, with no end to their life ever. Because I see them able to have everything they want and more, Because I see that they can be strong, healthy and making lots of money when they are in their 70th, 80th, 90th,and so on – really without any limit. I am not going to be ignoring them because I have already something really good going on. I will not lay around like my dog Kandy making sure Gipsy knows that she is not welcome because Otto and I should only give our attention to her. I will play and enjoy the new exciting experiences I can have with people who want to build this unlimited life with Bernie and Jim, me and many others.

There are so many more great adventures to live and the best one’s will come with people who feel that they don’t have to die and who are physically immortal. I am physically immortal and being physically immortal has very different dynamics. You just don’t get to enjoy just one or two people or have your life evolved around your family. You get to enjoy a whole lot of people with a lot of depth, intensity, enjoyment, intimacy. Who could say no to this kind of a life.

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I am going through a painful divorce!

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I am currently going through a painful divorce. Yesterday I thought I had made it through it emotionally but today the pain started all over again. We feel attracted to each other, we lived a great long love story – in fact it was the first love I can remember ever having. We did go through many adventures together. But now when we meet there is the initial excitement and later only after a couple of minutes of interacting I feel the pain and I know I shouldn’t have gone there.

The divorce I am going through is with chocolate. I’ve had chocolate all my life. Milk chocolate, dark chocolate, chocolate with chili and chocolate with exotic fruits. Every day I had some kind of chocolate. Now it’s over. I see chocolate and it reminds me of all the wonderful tasty chocolate moments I had but when I only have a small taste now it’s just sweet, it no longer has the delicious taste I remember and it drives me crazy.

I don’t like that I am changing into a ‘I can’t tolerate chocolate person’. I am eating more according to what builds my body and according to what gives me energy and this makes me more conscious. I am more and more alert to what foods build my body and what foods don’t. I am becoming a conscious physically immortal person who can’t abuse myself. Not with chocolate, not with unhealthy relationships, not with laziness, not with burning myself out, not with negativity, not with self doubt.. My consciousness to building my body is getting stronger all the time. Sometimes I don’t like it because I don’t want to break my old habits. Becoming this more conscious person is like a real divorce from an old self. I can sense strongly that being divorced is going to be much better but at the same time I can’t let go of the old all the way.

Lucky me, I have Bernie and Jim around me who give me a taste of what it’s like to build my body in every way every day. When I am around them I can feel the higher frequency of me living this real physically immortal life. It’s exhilarating and satisfying. It knows no struggle and pain and divorce is not necessary because we don’t form any relationships with anything that is destructive to begin with. I love my life!!

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Ending Anxiety

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After a 2-day break from writing a blog I am back. I did fly to the East Coast (from Phoenix) yesterday to see my clients this week. I had to get a presentation done over the weekend for one of the client meetings and we also had an amazing People Unlimited event. On top of this I had to get my hair done and my nails done and pack for another trip I am going on right after I come back from the East coast and my horse needs daily recovery training from an injury he had a long time ago. So – with all of this going on I got overwhelmed and anxious.

When driving to the airport yesterday, I had to take deep breaths to calm down.

It feels weird to feel so anxious after the amazing People Unlimited event we had over the weekend. Especially Bernie and Jim’s expressions impacted me. I don’t know if you have ever experienced that someone talks to you and you understand all the words but the meaning of what was said goes beyond your understanding. This is how Bernie and Jim’s expressions felt this weekend. It felt like “what did just happen to me?” I felt like my life just changed and I don’t even know how. I love this feeling. I know there are always new insights coming from it. Usually they come days later when I notice that I feel different about a certain situation. Now that I am sitting in my hotel room on the East coast and I am taking a little break this morning before a busy day, I feel excited about the new feelings I am going to feel.

I’ve been anxious all my life. In the beginning of my life I didn’t know it was anxiety. I just thought this is how life is. I didn’t know you could be free of it because I didn’t know it was wrong. After our PUI weekend event this weekend, I was able to feel how anxious I was and how wrong it is because I know a life without anxiety now. I know there will be a time when I will be free of anxiety even if I have so much going on. I know there will be a time when I can trust that everything will work itself out and the things that don’t work themselves out I don’t really need. I know there will be a time when I feel my aliveness so much that I know nothing will take my life even if it feels a lot at the moment.

 

 

I love intensity!

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I love intensity. I hate suppression. I love when people dare to be themselves. I love when people dare to say what they feel without a filter. I love when people dare to feel what they feel without making it understandable, without making it right, without making it proper. According to science, we only use a small portion of our brain. I feel this is because we try to fit in so much and try to make ourselves acceptable. I feel it’s because we twist what we feel to be right. No wonder most of our brain activity never gets to be firing on all cylinders.

Most of my life I was concerned about being liked and fitting in. I spent most of my time figuring out how to be NOT myself. Yet, I never succeeded. I always was considered ‘weird’ no matter how much I tried not to be weird. I was an outsider in my family. I was an outsider at school. I was an outsider in my jobs. I was an outsider in the village I grew up in. I even felt weird to my husband when I was married. No wonder I was depressed then. I thought it was because I just couldn’t fit in. Now I feel it’s because I tried to fit in so much!

The more I don’t care about fitting in and the more I am myself the less weird I feel. The truth is I am weird. I feel I never have to die and I can live unlimited and that’s absolutely the weirdest thing on the planet. My family doesn’t feel living without death is possible. All the friends I ever had don’t feel it’s possible. My colleagues at work don’t feel it’s possible. There is no religion, culture, tradition, political party who supports it. Most scientists don’t think it’s possible. So the fact is that I am weird to most people. But the more I am myself, the less weird I feel. Even though I feel different, I am respected by most people who know me. Being respected for who you really are is so much better than being accepted. It’s also the best cure for depression. The more comfortable I feel with my physical immortality, the less weird I feel, the less racing thoughts I have and I rarely feel depressed anymore.

I feel we have suppressed our feelings so much that most people don’t even know what they feel anymore. Most people confuse the feelings they learned from others with their own feelings. Being a People Unlimited member since 1996 and before being a People Forever member has helped me feel myself. Bernie and Jim and Chuck are the 3 people who have encouraged me most to feel who I really am. They are encouraging me to feel myself and not physical immortality as a philosophy or an idea. One of the things I have resisted most in my life has been feeling myself. I now feel that every person who dares to feel themselves can live forever. People who feel themselves stop suppressing the flow of their own body. Most diseases come from a blockage of this flow. If your digestion is blocked you can get an ulcer. If you are constipated, you take in the toxins you should be eliminating. When your blood doesn’t flow through your arteries and veins you will get heart disease and you may have a stroke. If your lymphatic system doesn’t flow, you can get cancer. If your nerves are stuck between your vertebrae, your organs can’t function right. People who dare to be themselves don’t have to die after all because they are in a flow and all their systems in their bodies are in a flow.

The number one thing I wish for people I meet now is that they can be themselves. It’s not that they can make money or find the love of their life, it’s that they can feel who they really are and be it. I wish they would join People Unlimited and build this amazing life together with us. I wish they would join so that we can encourage each other to feel ourselves without an end. Where no one is dispensable because we are all so unique and different. Where we are important as individuals and not because of a great believe system. So join us http://www.peopleunlimitedinc.com

Being connected with Bernie and Jim makes you be yourself

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I am a People Unlimited member because it’s the only place in the world where 2 people – Jim Strole and Bernadeane – physically connect with me and many others. It’s a connection of the cells. This connection with others is essential for feeling alive and unlimited. Without this connection physical immortality is just an idea and in the end your body still ages and fades away. This connection makes progress and personal growth natural. It’s a connection that most people have never experienced and even reject when it is offered to them at first. It’s a connection the body graves but when you receive it, you might freak out. I grave for intimacy and personal interaction but growing up in an environment where intimacy was unknown, I rejected it to a certain degree when I finally found it with Bernie and Jim.

I heard a story on national public radio a couple of months ago. It was about a child that had been adopted from Rumania and he wasn’t able to feel and have sympathy. He wasn’t able to feel pain. He could have killed someone and he would not have felt remorse. He was very aggressive and was expelled from school and from church. The parents went through therapy with him and the therapy was ‘physical closeness’. For several months, the child had to be within 3 feet of his mother. They literally slept in the same room and spent all their time together. He hated it. The punishment he had to endure when he did something wrong was ‘getting closer’. Instead of being 3 feet away he now had to be 2 feet away. Later on the therapy was being cradled by his father and mother. It was a funny picture, since he was 16 at the time. He also had to look them in their eyes for a long period of time each day.

This therapy of being physically close was successful. After a while he felt like his mother actually liked him and didn’t hate him and he relaxed. This is when he started to feel other people. At the end of the interview was a recording of an acceptance speech at church where he had received an award for extra caring in the community. He had changed completely. His speech was full of emotion and made me cry.

For me this story comes into mind with Bernie and Jim. Many people physically feel uncomfortable around them but the closeness and intimacy they offer is what we all need so much. Sometimes I feel we have unlearned how to be close to people. The world is so segmented into religions, life styles, family cultures that connection between people beyond all of that is not even known.

I go to People Unlimited events because I find Bernie and Jim’s intimacy soothes my soul, lifts my spirit and simply makes me happy. I also am able to feel other people so much deeper which gives me such a feeling of satisfaction and wholeness. Sometimes I feel like that child that had to be cradled, who felt uncomfortable when too close to people. Now having this close connection on an ongoing basis with Bernie and Jim has simply helped me be myself.

I am thankful today that I found Bernie and Jim who give me themselves without any strings attached. I have the best life with them, a life that gets better every day and has no end.

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