I am sitting in my beautiful home and am thinking about all the amazing people I have in my life. Jim and Ilana were over for dinner Saturday night and we talked a lot about how well we are doing. How deeply we appreciate each other. What great vacations we have planned, what great foods we eat, how we have a future for us with more money, more wellbeing, how much we are touched by all the amazing people who feel us so deeply and are building this unlimited life with us.
About a week ago, I heard someone call Jim Strole the most positive person in the world. When I had him over for dinner that evening I could feel Jim’s positivity impact me.
The reason why I have no problems is because I have so many positive people around me. People like Jim Strole.
But what is positive?
Positive is not that we have nothing bad happen to us, real positivity is how we deal with the good and bad things that happen in our lives. Real positivity is when we use everything we experience to make us stronger. Real positivity is when we really enjoy the good things in our lives and know that they happen to us because it’s who we are and that they are not coincidental. Real positivity is when we have something bad happen (like someone close to us dies, or we loose money, or we get robbed, etc.) and we know we can handle it. Real positivity is when these bad things don’t make us feel like we are bad people.
Bernie and Jim always say that it’s not personal when people treat us poorly. In the past I understood what they were saying but I still felt miserable and kind of responsible for it when something bad happened to me. But the truth is that it’s not personal when someone runs all over me or manipulates me or robs me. It’s not personal at all! The people who treat me poorly are usually very negative people and they act it out with anyone they meet. I just happened to be one of them. In the end it has nothing to do with me and it for sure doesn’t make me a bad person.
There is one lesson I have to learn from these bad situations though! This lesson is that I have to learn how to stay away from bad people. I also have to learn how to get away from them quickly if they do happen to get in my way.
I have no problems, because I have people in my life that are honest and want the best for me in every way. They don’t just wish the best for me but also go out of their way to make it happen every day.
Even though my work comes with a lot of different people from all walks of life and with all kinds of agenda’s, I am getting better to go with the strengths of each person and to stay out of the way of trouble. I feel the better I am getting at staying out of the way of trouble and the better I am doing at taking in all the great things that happen every day, the happier I am.
I simply have no problem. It’s hard to grasp because it means that there is nothing left to fix. I have a lot of time on my hands, now that I no longer worry so much and there is nothing left to fix. Time I can use to do things I really like doing. Things like writing this blog or getting closer to the many people I truly love and care about.