The most fun I’ve ever had…

I am lucky, I make o.k. money that lets me go on vacations, live in a great house and have fun spending money on clothing, good food and gadgets. All of that is fun but the real fun for me is when I feel alive. What do I mean by ‘feeling alive’. I feel alive when my senses are awake, my emotions are free to feel everything, when I can feel sad and cry when something horrible happens to someone and when I can feel happy and excited when something really great happens as well. The more years we are around, the more we think we have figured life out. We have our set routines. We know what we’ll eat for breakfast, what style of furniture we like, what style of clothing we will wear, what the people are we like and who we don’t like, what religion we belong to and so on. The more we think we have figured life out the less we re-invent ourselves. But unfortunately, at the same time our range of the emotions we can feel goes down, our spontaneity goes down and our willingness to explore decreases. When most of us were in our teens we were excited to explore who we were are going to be. We wanted to learn, make money, find great friends and life partners to build our lives with. The sad thing is that most people will not change up their routines any longer when they are in their 50th and 60th and 70th.

The real luck I have is not that I make o.k. money but that I found people who are explorers no matter how many years they are around. I just attended the People Unlimited New Years Launch Event in Scottsdale and I was lucky to be with Bernadeane who I saw completely change her routine around once again. And Bernie is not in her teens, or 20th or 30th. I know Bernie now for about 25 years and I’ve seen her change her routine around over and over again. Usually when I see Bernie change is when she feels that what she has been doing is no longer building her body or the people around her. Bernie changes things most people wouldn’t change like life style, food, opinions, believes, the way of interacting with close friends and family. Each time I see her change these things, I see Bernie be more alive. I see her more charismatic, more vibrant, more smiling and laughing, more excited about her day, more excited about her future. My mom is only 10 more years around than Bernie and I care for her a lot but I have not seen my mom excited about her future for a very long time.

The most fun I have is when I get up in the morning and don’t live the perfect routine but have the intend to do whatever will most build my body and the body of everyone around me that day. What can I say, what can I do, how can I interact with my co-workers and clients so that their life is easier that day? How can I make the people around me feel valuable, wanted, smart and just overall great? How many people can I make feel that way?

It’s so much fun to live my day that way because I have to re-invent myself all the time and there is no set routine. It has no right and wrongs and the dreadful feelings of being impatient and frustrated with others don’t exist. My day is not planned around a long and important ‘to do’ list but around the intend to do what will make my life better and what can make the lives of the people around me better. This requires all my senses to be aware. Great routines always come with the threat of failure. Failure because I might not be able to do everything I said I would. Living around the intend to making my own life and the lives of others better, easier and more fun knows no failures. In the end those failures of missing a goal or not completing something you had committed to are fun killers. They can make you feel small and insufficient and unimportant because once again you have broken your word. Making another person smile and have a moment of laughter or making a certain task easy for others or just giving someone that feeling of how important they are to you has instant gratification. In those moments failure does not exist and the feeling small and insignificant which is so common is extinguished. There are no limits of how easy life can be and how happy we can be and how important we are to each other.

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Feeling another person’s body is invigorating

Most people associate feeling another person’s body with sexuality and sensuality. But when we put a hand on a person’s shoulder or arm when they feel stressed they relaxed. A handshake is a contact through which people get to know each other. The firmness of the handshake immediately communicates if a person feels comfortable with you and with themselves.

For me feeling other people’s body has been my number one stress releaver. I experience a lot of anxiety but it is so much less now compared to what it used to be. I used to feel anxiety pretty much all the time. Each time I drove to work I felt fear. Each time I went to school I had fear. I was anxious around my friends. Sometimes it was so strong that I had a hard time breathing and to keep my thoughts straight.

When I was studying at the University of Munich I earned extra money with being a night hostess in overnight trains. One day I had worked all night and then had the day off in a town somewhere in Northern Germany that I had never been to before. When I woke up after sleeping for a couple of hours I experienced extreme anxiety. This is when I did it for the first time. I laid on the bed in the afternoon and just started to feeling the people around me. I just felt their bodies. I didn’t have to know who they were and what they were doing. I just felt the bodies of the people I heard in the street, in the inn I stayed at and of the people I couldn’t hear but knew they were around. Like you can feel a dog or a cat or an angry person or a happy person, I just opened myself to feeling the people around me and it relaxed me. I started to feel blood running through my veins again and my breathing became normal and the anxiety was gone. Sometimes I remember this great experience and I do it again. Each time it lifts my spirits and I feel better even if I don’t have anxiety.

I like People Unlimited and the owners Bernie and Jim so much because they build this physical connection between people. Most people build connection through liking the same things, falling in love and starting a family, religion, spirituality but I have never met anyone who just builds the connection of the body. Bernie and Jim do exactly that and it has been just right for me.

When I simply give to feeling the people around me still relaxes me. It relaxes me when I fly and it helps me through the days in my high stress job. When I feel a person’s body it seems like they can’t lie and play games, they can just be themselves. They might feel confused, tense, angry, frustrated but it’s who they are at the moment and it relaxes me to just feel them and to not put much more meaning to it. Even the most ego driven self righteous person still has a heart that beats and blood that flows through their veins. Feeling their bodies helps me to not react to them and I can keep my joy.

Most people at work are tense all the time and it is a blessing that I found Bernie and Jim and Otto and many others who feel joyful and flowing and not tense and stressed out. Being physically connected with unlimited people on a daily basis is the most invigorating experience I’ve ever had much beyond getting over an anxiety attack. Try it out yourself. Spend a day with feeling other people’s bodies especially if you don’t get along with them. Come and be with me at a People Unlimited event and find out how incredibly invigorating it is to be around people who are dedicated to building the physical connection between each other. You will see it will be the most invigorating experience for you as well.