Most people associate feeling another person’s body with sexuality and sensuality. But when we put a hand on a person’s shoulder or arm when they feel stressed they relaxed. A handshake is a contact through which people get to know each other. The firmness of the handshake immediately communicates if a person feels comfortable with you and with themselves.
For me feeling other people’s body has been my number one stress releaver. I experience a lot of anxiety but it is so much less now compared to what it used to be. I used to feel anxiety pretty much all the time. Each time I drove to work I felt fear. Each time I went to school I had fear. I was anxious around my friends. Sometimes it was so strong that I had a hard time breathing and to keep my thoughts straight.
When I was studying at the University of Munich I earned extra money with being a night hostess in overnight trains. One day I had worked all night and then had the day off in a town somewhere in Northern Germany that I had never been to before. When I woke up after sleeping for a couple of hours I experienced extreme anxiety. This is when I did it for the first time. I laid on the bed in the afternoon and just started to feeling the people around me. I just felt their bodies. I didn’t have to know who they were and what they were doing. I just felt the bodies of the people I heard in the street, in the inn I stayed at and of the people I couldn’t hear but knew they were around. Like you can feel a dog or a cat or an angry person or a happy person, I just opened myself to feeling the people around me and it relaxed me. I started to feel blood running through my veins again and my breathing became normal and the anxiety was gone. Sometimes I remember this great experience and I do it again. Each time it lifts my spirits and I feel better even if I don’t have anxiety.
I like People Unlimited and the owners Bernie and Jim so much because they build this physical connection between people. Most people build connection through liking the same things, falling in love and starting a family, religion, spirituality but I have never met anyone who just builds the connection of the body. Bernie and Jim do exactly that and it has been just right for me.
When I simply give to feeling the people around me still relaxes me. It relaxes me when I fly and it helps me through the days in my high stress job. When I feel a person’s body it seems like they can’t lie and play games, they can just be themselves. They might feel confused, tense, angry, frustrated but it’s who they are at the moment and it relaxes me to just feel them and to not put much more meaning to it. Even the most ego driven self righteous person still has a heart that beats and blood that flows through their veins. Feeling their bodies helps me to not react to them and I can keep my joy.
Most people at work are tense all the time and it is a blessing that I found Bernie and Jim and Otto and many others who feel joyful and flowing and not tense and stressed out. Being physically connected with unlimited people on a daily basis is the most invigorating experience I’ve ever had much beyond getting over an anxiety attack. Try it out yourself. Spend a day with feeling other people’s bodies especially if you don’t get along with them. Come and be with me at a People Unlimited event and find out how incredibly invigorating it is to be around people who are dedicated to building the physical connection between each other. You will see it will be the most invigorating experience for you as well.