The # 1 obstacle every person has to overcome to succeed…

I was in San Diego last week attending the annual People Unlimited Summer Celebration. It’s a one week long event where people come together from all over the world dedicated to creating a human environment without abuse, jealousy, limits, poverty, greed, separation and death. Without all the things that are so unhealthy and cause heart ache, anxiety, stress and depression. A human environment full of passion, where people build each other, genuinely care for each other, walk through conflicts without separating, shutting down or putting each other down. Where people recognize each other’s brilliance and generously boost each other to loose all inhibitions in living it. A human environment full of tenderness and vulnerability the human emotions that are so healing to old pains and sufferings. This is what I spent doing last week and it was phenomenal.

We stayed at the Town and Country Resort and Convention Center right across the Fashion Valley Mall in San Diego. To get to the mall we had to cross a small bridge over a tiny river. It was a short walk and it was fun to go over the bridge. What wasn’t so much fun and literally shocking was looking down to the river. The tiny river was full with trash that no-one bothered to clean up for a long long time. There were bottles, shoes, shopping carts, clothes that had been discarded in it. But it wasn’t the trash that bothered me most, it was the algae that was growing on it. The river was completely covered with inches of algae and you couldn’t even see the water any longer. It just looked as if it was about to turn bad and any living animal in it was about to die with it. I walked over this bridge several times to go strolling through the mall and to go running in the morning. Each time I looked down I saw something surprising. I saw a beautiful turtle on top op some of the trash living in this river. The turtle was covered with algae and it looked very sad and barely surviving. I couldn’t believe that in such a prosperous area with Prada and Giorgio Armani stores only yards away, people could be so ignorant and let a river get so bad. Each time I walked over the bridge and saw the turtle I wanted to safe it. I wanted to grab it and then just find a cleaner area for it to live in. At the same time I knew if I would do just that it might be worse for the turtle and it might simply die because it wouldn’t be accustomed to the clean river and it would get disoriented and most likely die.

The turtle’s situation touched me because it felt so similar to what I was experiencing at the People Unlimited Summer Celebration Event. I was spending my week away from the ‘normal’ human environment where greed, jealousy, suspicion, bitchiness, dishonesty is so normal. We all have hurt feelings from former boyfriends or girlfriends or husbands or wives who left us or who treated us bad or became viscous just because they didn’t know better. Or we may have experienced colleagues or business partners who stabbed us in the back when we didn’t look for a moment or who were jealous because we were so good at what we were doing and they weren’t. Or friends who stopped talking to us because we said the wrong thing. Or mothers and fathers who just simply don’t understand us because they don’t know how. And the list goes on and on and on. Same as the river was polluted the human environment is polluted and I didn’t even mention all the wars that are going on in the world and all the people who don’t have enough to eat. I am just talking about the polluted human environment in the richest country in the world.

When being at the People Unlimited Summer Celebration the human environment wasn’t polluted and clean. But same as animals who you try to put into a clean environment sometimes die because they are not used to it, the number one human reaction to a clean human environment is to reject it. Most people will reject the very person who treats them well because they only experienced so much abuse before and they can’t take it. They will reject the person who praises them and treats them well.

The number 1 obstacle to success is that we often simply reject what’s good for us. Most people can’t even take in a simple compliment and they can definitely not take in the best human environment in the world. During our week-long People Unlimited Summer Celebration I could see myself cringe and stop breathing many times, not because I was treated bad but for the exact opposite because I was treated in the greatest way ever.

I am lucky to recognize the pattern. Even if I cringe and stop breathing I can recognize when someone treats me well. I can thank them for it and I can go with them in it. I can boost the very person who made me cringe because I have experienced that all my success simply comes from going with people who treat me extremely well and I am successful because I have never rejected them. I know I am a better and larger and much happier person for it. I have experienced many many times that when I boost Bernadeane and Jim Strole who are creating this new healthy human environment I only thrive more and get better. I make it a point to pay them well for the work they do because I feel lots of people need to be able to experience it. Instead of going with the cringing I do the opposite and co-create this environment with Bernadeane and Jim Strole to make it bigger and better all the time. I know it’s the clean environment we all need to have a future that is worth while living and I want to live this future with lots and lots of people.
Check us out at PeopleUnlimitedInc.com and join us at one of our next week long events or weekend events. I would love to see you there.

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A complete new approach to an ideal job…

I need a new job for a long time now or I need something completely different in the one I have. I love my job but there are a lot of areas I feel stuck in. I feel I have to bend who I am in many situations and wiggle myself through the day-to-day politics of my company. The thinking about how to do my job without stepping on someone else’s feet or hurting their feelings is taking up more time than actually doing the work for my clients. I love being all out everywhere and this includes my work. I love being intense at work and I love when my intensity brings me to new places and makes me grow personally and financially. I love making money and I love making lots of it. I love getting better and larger in what I do. I love having happier clients who buy more from our company and making the company more money and making me more money. I feel depressed and anxious and stuck when I don’t have this growth. I’ve been asked to step back from several areas at my current job and I’ve seen things go in the wrong direction because of it and it’s been frustrating.

All of this translates into anxiety. I started to feel stressed and overwhelmed in situations that I am usually relaxed in. I started to have anxiety attacks when boarding the airplane to go see my clients. I am usually always nervous when flying but the anxiety now was getting out of hand. My thoughts are racing, I am afraid I forget something essential like my wallet over and over again.

When going into the office in the morning I usually start out happy because I am having such a wonderful life and then I get closer to the office and I start having the racing thoughts and worries about things I have absolutely no control over. When driving home from work I am having a hard time breathing. It’s like all my muscles are tense and I have to force the air into my lungs instead of it just flowing freely.

I know something is wrong and something needs to change…

I started to look around and to review job posting. The more job postings I reviewed the more I knew I was looking for the right people environment rather than a perfect list of items I would be responsible for. I was looking for a people environment where I was boosted and cheered on in what I do best instead of being asked to step back.

When looking at these job postings it seemed impossible to find.

I am looking for my ideal job and the things I want in this ideal job are things I have never seen on anyone’s job wish list before. I feel my ideal job needs to build my body instead of tearing me down. The most important in my ideal Job is that it boosts me to physically thrive. It needs to be a job that doesn’t burn me out and doesn’t give me pains in my body. Pains such as back pain, sleeplessness, inflamed wrists from too much typing, Exhausted eyes from staring at my computer screen for hours and hours in the day without taking breaks.

It felt good to think about what I really wanted.

So what made it on my wish list for my dream job?

– A job where my blood flows freely through my arteries without any restrictions making sure all my cells get all the nutrients they need to be all out in the work I do.
– A job where I feel no restriction in my lungs. Where I naturally inhale air deeply and can exhale to let it all out again without feeling any tension to ensure my cells get all the oxygen they need so I can be sharp, clear and efficient and so that I can make the right decision quickly when required.
– A job that pays me well so that I can replenish.
– A job that’s stimulating so that I can grow new neuro-pathways and let go of others no longer needed.
– A job where my muscles can get tense when they have to do the work and then relax again when moving on to something different.
– A job where my nervous system is healthy and knows when to be on and when to relax as well. Where my neurons know when to pass on information in my brain and when to block it so that I can be most efficient.
– A job where I am wide awake in the morning ready to be active and move mountains after a good night’s sleep.
– A job where I build financial health so I can easily spend money on building myself.
– A job where I make more and more money that I can spend on building a world where people thrive and have no end instead of being burned out and deteriorate.
– A job where I can make more and more money so that I can invest more and more in People Unlimited and Bernie and Jim who are leaders in building a world without death. They build a world where a job like the one I am looking for is possible and I need to pay them well for it.

Women love shopping for shoes but do we do it for the right reasons?

Women love shopping for clothing and shoes and so do I but do we do it for the reasons? Sometimes I shop because I feel great and part of feeling great is that I look good and of course I am happy to spend money on myself for clothing and shoes that expresses how great I am. I would be denying myself if I wouldn’t. 

But when I am honest to myself do I always go shopping for that reason? Sometimes it’s just the opposite and I go shopping because I feel not so great and I have the urge to fill myself up with shopping. The thought of just the right shoes and especially if they are on sale seems to be the one thing that can lift my spirits. In those moments I don’t buy the shoes because I feel great but because I need to be filled up and shoes or clothing just seem to do the job. And often times I have no reason what so ever for feeling empty or awful. My life is going great. I have created the best for myself in every area, so there is definitely no need for feeing negative to begin with. By the way when I buy the shoes to make me feel great it usually works and I will feel better but I still find it wrong to feel empty. Feeling awful about myself for whatever reason is just wrong and I find it wrong for most people I know.

There are some really awful people around but I am not talking about them. In the end, usually only the good people feel awful and negative about themselves and the people who do the bad things, usually have no conscience and will feel never bad. But then even the ‘bad’ people might feel so highly nothing about themselves that they have to take it out on others by being mean and terrible. If they would feel better and more valuable they might stop being so mean. But this is a different subject…

I now realize that we get taught that we are nothing… my mom has nothing to say about how great she is, my sister is in complete silence about how important she is. In fact I doubt she it ever crossed their mind that saying good things about themselves is an option. My grandma was negative all the time and she had no positive word come out of her mouth ever. And all my aunts struggled with depression. None of them felt awful like ‘I am a terrible person’ awful but they felt awful like ‘I always have to accomplish something to be valuable’ or ‘I am just not measuring up’ awful or ‘I am not valuable for simply who I am’ awful. Language such as ‘I am great’, ‘I am a wonderful person’, ‘I am proud of myself’, ‘I am important to be around’ or any other such language is pretty much non-existent in their vocabulary.

And it’s pretty much non-existing for most woman I know. In fact, I only know one woman who can say freely that she is important. What I hear a lot from woman pretty much everywhere is ‘You are important’. Especially if a woman has children I can hear it non-stop. I can hear non-stop how important her children are. Shouldn’t the mothers say great things about themselves too? If you say more great things about your children or other people in general than about yourself I find you hypercritical. And – by the way – you will teach your children that they are not valuable either and that they will only live for others when they grow up. I don’t think that is a great upbringing after all.

So who is going to break the cycle? I know one person who has broken it already. And this person is Bernadeane. I am so thankful for you – Bernie!! Hallelujah, one woman who finally says the truth about herself. I have heard Bernie say many times ‘I am valuable’, ‘I am important’. And it’s not only her words it’s also her body language. It’s how Bernie looks, how well she dresses and how she talks to others. Bernie is a woman who looks gorgeous not just to impress men and to hold up well in the unending female competition of ‘good looking’. She looks good just because she feel she is so valuable and looking good is just the right way to express it. How refreshing!!! Not sure if with all the “I don’t feel valuable’ women or ‘I only feel valuable for the great things I do’ role models I’ve had in my life, I would have been able to even have the thought that I can feel good for who I am. Only after hanging out with Bernadeane for the past 20 years I am getting a glimpse of how it feels to be valuable for the person I am.

It feels sooo, sooo good. And this is the direction I am taking now. Why not let my life be guided by the valuable person I am instead of the person who has to please others all the time. I personally find people who feel their own value extremely pleasing. So I am going to be more and more pleasing that way now too.

Join people who promote the value of human life in the best way ever and come to a People Unlimited event here in Scottsdale or to our Summer Celebration event in San Diego! It’s the best and most transforming experience you will ever have. A transformation that we all need. A transformation to being valuable. Check us out at PeopleUnlimitedInc.com

I feel down today…

Today is a day I feel I am running against obstacles everywhere. Mostly people obstacles. People I am working with seem so far away and it’s hard to communicate with them. I love my job but today is a day where I feel everyone is working in their own silo and there is just no flow. We are working on preparing several important client meetings next week and we could do so much better if we would listen to each other and if we would flow with each other. Without a flow I get tense and anxious. I am not the only one who feels down in my company. Lots of the people I admire and respect for the great work they do and for the great team player they are have resigned or are telling me they are going to resign in the next couple of months. Not exactly sure when but it’s sure that they do not want to hang around. So I am down today. It’s depressing.

I like it much better when people build each other. I find that there are very few people who have the true talent to build another person. There are people who give you the feeling that you can move a mountain and that you are tremendously valuable and essential to them. And then there are people who can only see themselves. These people see you as competitor and they feel threatened by you and you can do nothing right for them.

The people I like best are the people who genuinely want me to thrive. I genuinely want people to thrive. I don’t feel I am better or worse than others. I just feel we are doing different things complementing each other to get great things accomplished together. I know I can only do a piece of the puzzle and that I need others in order to be successful at what I do. I am an account manager and I am successful when my clients are extremely happy, so happy that they simply do not even want to look at the competition. So happy that they only want to work with me and the company I represent. I love being successful and I love being paid well for it.

But since I am representing the company and everyone else in it, I can only be as good as we all are together. It’s frustrating to see how people fight each other more than wanting to do the right thing for the client. Sometimes it makes it hard for me to breath.

Having Bernie and Jim in my life makes me privileged because I know how it feels to be cared for. I mean really cared for. Bernie and Jim genuinely care for me all the time for over 20 years now. They care personally for me. No matter if they have 2000 people around them or just 30, they always make me feel important. I’ve seen Bernie and Jim go through the most difficult times in their lives and they cared for me. I’ve seen Bernie and Jim experience the greatest success and they care about me. I am with them now for over 20 years and they have never withdrawn or stopped communicating with me or stopped caring for me. Not even for a minute.

My parents sometimes stopped talking to each other for several days because they didn’t get along and it was an ice cold feeling at home. Everyone was depressed until they made up and spoke again. In the past Otto and I used to not find the right words to express our feelings to each other There were times when we spoke only the superficial things and not what really mattered to us. With Bernie and Jim I’ve never experienced this. They have always kept all communication open. I feel so cared for by them. I feel more cared for by them than any other person in my life. And I care for them too. When I am really honest with myself I care for them the same way they do for me, without any breaks. I care for them when I have great things happen to me and when things are not so great and I feel down like today. It just feels great to live an honest life where nothing separates me from others. And its a 2-way situation. It only works when everyone does their part. Otto and I are communicating now without any breaks everything to each other. There are more and more people who I feel close to on a daily basis and this makes me feel so rich. I am thankful to be alive and will never die. I am proud of who I am and of the life I am creating for myself and others around me.

Find out more about myself, Otto and Bernie and Jim and join us for one of our People Unlimited events in Scottsdale AZ or come to our summer celebration event in San Diego. It’s really not about attending an event but about meeting people who genuinely care and who want you to be with them for always. Www.peopleunlimitedinc.com

The pro’s and con’s of being in your 50s

I am 3 years into my 50th now and it has been an adventure. In my 40th I thought my life was on a great track and that I was set-up well for all the years to come. But then the 50th hit and it all changed. I had heard about midlife crisis and never understood why people experienced it. This is the kind of ignorance I had all the way up to my 50th. For example I couldn’t see why people in their 50th all of a sudden don’t wear bikinis any longer or they completely discard of tank tops and short sleeve t-shirts to only wear long sleeve clothing. My aunt was the first person I met who, when she hit her 50’s, insistent that her arms did no longer have the look that they deserved to be displayed in public. I couldn’t imagine what could be so ugly about the arms that they no longer deserved to be seen but I could never find out because I couldn’t see them any longer. Pretty much up to my 50th I had absolutely no sense for what it means when your body starts changing and you feel like you have no control over it.

Everything changes so quickly and so irreversibly that it can scare the hell out of you. All the feelings of being set-up well in my 40th went right out of the window when I started to gain weight and even when I lowered my daily calories I kept gaining it. When my doctor started to look at my annual check-up for the signs of loss in bone density, cancer and high cholesterol and blood pressure and anything that was only off a little bit was now a sign of a fatal disease. High blood pressure was now the sign for a future stroke, an extra dense area in my breast on my mammogram was the sign of breast cancer and I would play with my life if I wouldn’t get a biopsy. His communication to me was clear ‘You are now in your 50th and your final days are numbered and high cholesterol, high blood pressure, cancer will be part of it.’ Now I understand, just going to the doctor can be enough reason to be in a mid-life crisis in your 50th. The outlook they have for you is depressing.

So here is the good news about being in my 50th: I get to stand out from the crowd. I’ve been around long enough to kind of know what is bullshit and what is real and I can make my own choices. I no longer have to follow along with the simple way of life and what society has laid out for me.

When my doctor told me I needed to have a biopsy for a 2 mm high density area in my breast, I did a lot of research and didn’t just go with it. I felt it was a too aggressive approach getting my breast cut open and having a piece of metal put in to mark a spot that they just couldn’t evaluate in the mammogram and ultra sound because it was too dense. I decided to wait for 6 months, get another ultra sound and if something really dangerous like cancer was going on in that area I would see it immediately. I personally don’t feel it but it’s always good to know for sure. I started to do some research around hormones and worked on balancing them and changed not my calorie intake but the quality of foods I eat and started to lose weight pretty much immediately.

It’s glorious when you can beat the statistics and you feel really good when you should be in the middle of your midlife crisis. It’s an exhilarating feeling when you feel great physically when you should be depressed about the unavoidable decaying of yourself. It’s one of the best feelings when you go a different way.

I am going to go to Costa Rica this summer and it’s going to be hot there and I will take the risk of displaying my entire body in a bikini. I will enjoy looking at my curves and body when I am walking along the beach and when I am sun bathing next to the pool. I can’t wait. It will feel great.

I love my life. It feels great. I know I wouldn’t have it if it weren’t for the constant inspiration of Bernadeane and Jim Strole. They stimulate me every day with living a life that is going up and up and up in the most phenomenal way. Bernie has been around for well over 70 years and Jim for well over 60 years and I see them doing better physically now than ever. I know I will be with them when they are in their hundreds and they will be better then compared to now. What inspires me most is how real they are with what’s going on with them. They are real with their emotions, with the test results they receive from doctors and most of all with how they feel their own bodies and they take action to build themselves better all the time. I’ve learned a lot from them. They teach something no one teaches. They teach a way of life that has no end and it’s so much fun and joy to live that way. I only recommend it.

Today I made my mom angry

Today I made my mom angry and I am proud of it.

My mom lives in a small town in Germany. She lives with my sister, Ulrike, and my sister’s boyfriend, Dietmar, in the house her grandparents built in the late 18 hundreds. It’s a great big house with a large garden. My mom is a landscape architect in her profession and she and my dad transformed the garden to a living piece of art. The art is dynamic and changes as the year progresses from spring to autumn. My mom just had her 85th birthday and she still keeps up the garden art. I love when I get to visit in summer because the lush garden is like a huge colorful canvas and I can sit right in the middle of it and get to enjoy it.

And here is how I made my mom angry and why I am proud of it.

I spoke to my mom on the phone and she mentioned that her knee is getting worse and worse and she might not be able to work in her garden any longer. She had had knee surgery several years ago and where most people do much better after the surgery she actually did worse. She saw many doctors after her surgery and all of them told her that her knee looked good and they couldn’t find anything wrong. Yet she felt tremendous pain and it was hard for her to walk more than 15 minutes.

Now she told me that soon she might not be able to walk at all. I felt for her and mentioned, there must be something that can be done. This is when the conversation got tricky. My mom mentioned that she had seen once again another specialist who actually found what was wrong and how it could be done better now. But he wouldn’t give any guarantees. I was excited about it and told my mom that doing anything possible was better than not being able to walk any longer. My mom responded that now being in her late 80’s she felt she only had a little longer to live and that it wasn’t worth it. This got me to respond without thinking in a really intense manner that left my mom quiet and she ended our conversation pretty much right after. My mom and I love to talk and I knew that I had upset her.

This is what I told my mom: “Every single minute of your life is precious and worth it to improve. Even if – what I don’t hope – you would only have 1 more year to live, it would be worth it to do anything that makes that year the best year you can have. A year with working in your garden; a year with doing trips to see different places; a year where you can continue to drive your car; a year where you can continue to go to concerts and see art exhibitions. A year where you can walk and do all the things you love.”

The truth is that I feel the sooner my mom can no longer do the little walking she can do now, the less time she will have to live and I simply don’t like.

I am proud I feel so intensely about my mom’s life. My life with her is getting better all the time. Where I barely had any communication with my mom when growing up, we now enjoy each other in so many different ways.

After speaking so intensely to my mom, I could feel her uncomfortable with my loud and definite talk. In the past I would have felt guilty for speaking so loud and definite, now I feel proud for who I am and for how precious I find my mom. I feel that everyone deserves to feel well no matter how many years on this planet. For me my mom is not ‘old’, for me she is as precious as a child and her life is as valuable.

I don’t feel deterioration is acceptable and we can do a lot for not having to experience it. The truth is, the body is amazing and responds to all the actions we take to build ourselves and wanting to live amazingly. Just eating better and doing exercise usually does wonders really quickly. We can’t take ourselves for granted. Above all, the feeling that we are worth it to live without an end is the best we can do for ourselves. It builds our immune system, our bones, it helps keep up our muscle tone and the elasticity in our skin. Feeling no end for our bodies makes us digest the food we eat better and makes us transform really phenomenally when we do exercises. It helps our organs to be more efficient and it simply feels great.

Check out a whole community of people who feel the same at peopleunlimitedinc.com.

Money well spent…

Everyone around me knows: I like to spend money. I like making money and I like spending it. I like spending it on clothing, furniture, my horse and riding, my dogs, Otto, vacations. Lately I have discovered supplements or so called superfoods. They make me feel high and I love spending money on them. I just like all the things that are pleasurable and it feels great to spend money on these things. Feeling good makes me want to feel better and feeling better makes me want to feel even better. It’s an upward spiral.

But none of it would give me the pleasure I am experiencing, if I wouldn’t know where my deepest pleasure comes from. If I wouldn’t appreciate myself I wouldn’t find any fun in spending money on myself. If people in my life would only like me for the roles I play, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy spending money on myself.

I am privileged because I found people for whom I am the most precious in their lives. And these are people who are not my family or life partner. It’s Bernadeane and Jim Strole. Bernie and Jim let me feel every day how much they appreciate me and how important I am to them. I am more precious to them than anything else. And they are the most precious to me as well. 

Being valued so highly and valuing Bernie and Jim so much gives me all the reasons to feel good. It gives me the desire to spend money for my personal pleasure, enjoyment and fun.

The best and most important money I spend is my monthly payment for Bernie and Jim who are the owners of People Unlimited.

I get depressed when I don’t see an increase in my payment. Bernie and Jim get better at what they do all the time and it only feels right if I pay them more as well.

Lots of people dream of a bigger house and a bigger car and a better vacation or a vacation at all. I want that too but my biggest desire is to pay Bernie and Jim more. It just makes me feel good to pay for the large value I receive from them. It is having a community where people feel so valuable and worthy that they no longer feel it is inevitable to die. Bernie and Jim are geniuses in their work. They actually bring out in people the ability to look and feel better with every year instead of breaking down and aging. I get to be with so many amazing people in their teens, 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, 90’s and soon 100’s who are so interesting, loving, true, passionate, inspiring. I only get to enjoy them because of the amazing work Bernie and Jim do. It’s more than a dream come true. It’s actually living a life that no longer needs dreams.